I always knew I wanted children and I always thought I would never have the desire to give up my career. It was not until Mila was born that I truly understood how difficult of a decision that would be [mom guilt is REAL, people]. I returned to work, full-time when she was 3.5 months old…. but we are so very fortunate to have her two grandmothers take turns caring for her while we work.
Don’t get me wrong – It. Is. HARD! I have days where I stare at her videos at work, annoy my coworkers with too many stories, and call/ text to check on her numerous times a day. However, I have learned to accept this as my new norm, while trying to figure out how to juggle it all….and if you know, please do share!
Here are some of MY reasons why I have grown to embrace this role:
- Being a SAHM is REALLY, REALLY hard:
Stay at home moms are underrated …and at times, not appreciated as much as they should be! It is no piece of cake. In fact, it is probably one of the hardest jobs out there. It is challenging to stay home all day with little, if any, adult interaction. Kuddos to all the SAHMs- you are amazing!
- Family Time is my favorite!
Weekends are especially meaningful. I have missed her so much during the work week, being that I only spend about 2.5 hours a day with her Monday-Friday. Therefore, weekends are my time to connect, play & build memories with Mila. It is my time to cuddle her and kiss her and stare at her for hours [and then watch videos of her while she naps]. I try to make the weekends about her and incorporate fun, family friendly activities.
I hope one day when Mila is older, she views me as her mama that did it all! This is what keeps me going when I have a bad day. I experienced this firsthand with my own mother and it was all I knew growing up – which I believe plays a huge part in my decision to be a working mom.
- I don’t have to be “mom” all the time.
I juggle different titles during the day and that gives me an excuse to get up, get out of PJ’s and put on some makeup. I take on different roles, interact with different people and everyday is a new learning experience.
- Less pressure of a perfect home.
I have an excuse as to why dinner is not cooked or the laundry is not done…we are home a limited number of hours a day and it takes the pressure off of me to hold together a perfect home [which I think many women put on themselves].
Whether you are a stay at home mama or a “working” mama, being a mom itself is one of the hardest jobs we will ever have! It is so important to encourage each other, connect with other moms, share tips and offer advice. Feel free to reach out anytime.
Photos by the wonderful Eva Marie Photography.